Surviving and Thriving During the Holidays with an Addicted Child

My first order of action is to enter into the season with no expectations. In Alanon they have a saying, “Expectations are only premeditated resentments.” I usually set the bar so high for myself and others that anything short of perfection is considered failure in my opinion. This year I am only doing the parts I enjoy. I am keeping it simple. I am only attending functions that I want

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to attend. I am only decorating as much or as little as I feel like. As for the actual holiday? I actively choose to let it play out as it will and not try to orchestrate the kind of day that I can imagine. There is not one *right* way to make the holiday special. Next I am letting everyone be responsible for their own relationships. Our daughter is invited and welcome to be home for our holidays along with everyone else. If someone chooses not to come because she is there, that is their business. We will miss them, but I refuse to enter into those kinds of exchanges. Everyone is welcome to come. It’s their choice if they want to take us up on the offer or not. I also choose to make lots of room for everyone’s choices and not be offended and allow myself to feel resentful. I acknowledge that if someone has a hard time being around our daughter then it is their right to choose not to. We can see each other another time. I have lots of room in my heart for everyone to take care of themselves. We have had holidays in the past where our daughter was not able to be home for various reasons. Those holidays were particularly difficult. During those times I put her into God’s hands for safe keeping. I made a point of getting away by myself for a short time

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to pray for her, to light a candle, to write down happy memories of times with her. Indulging in those memories was a gift that I gave to myself. A big issue for me has been the guilt I feel as I move on without my daughter. How do you have fun or enjoy anything when someone you love is lost in their disease? Figuratively speaking, I keep the porch light on. I let her know we love her; we are here if and when she wants to seek help. We will do what we can but the reality is that she has to make her journey in her own time and I have to make mine in my own time. I choose now. A wise friend told me once that my husband and my other kids deserve to have good memories with their wife and mom. Good holidays, good fun times. The only way that I can make that happen is by releasing myself from myself imposed obligations to save my addicted daughter. By stepping aside and allowing her to make her own decisions about the kind of life she wants to live. By letting my life continue despite what she may be doing at any given moment. My happiness cannot be dependent on how well my daughter is doing or not doing. Today I choose to keep it simple. I choose to love my daughter as much as she will allow me to. I choose to savor special moments with friends and loved ones while I can. I choose to enter into this season with no expectations for myself or anyone else. I choose to accept each day as it comes with the good and the challenging and see what I can learn from both. I choose to keep my heart open.

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